It feels good to be back after a well-deserved leave. The only downside is that rather than feel rejuvenated after being away for 90 days, I feel exhausted, sleep deprived and perpetually burnt-out.
That’s what happens when you are caring for an infant. New babies bring a lot of joy to the family but before long, almost everyone moves on, leaving the new mother who also needs a lot of time to recover, to care for their newborn.
This impacts the mother’s life in many ways, physically, emotionally and otherwise.
It was therefore not surprising to me when I was thinking of a topic to write on and my brain was all foggy.
I tried hard to stay away from writing about the trending rumour involving one of Nigeria’s most loved celebrity couple as I’ve stayed away from commenting on the issue on social media but much as I tried, one question that kept tugging on my mind each time I went on social media and saw all the hot takes from various people on the matter was, why do people hate good marriages, what does today’s internet generation have against marriage?
Over the past few days, a popular but faceless blog with a nameless blogger in it’s characteristic manner, shared a cryptic post, narrating the details of an affair between a married male celebrity and his female friend, how she had been pregnant for him a few times and had abortions but was pregnant again and had vowed not to take this one out.
Not long after the story broke, the dots were connected and three names came up to form the love triangle.
Before one could say how much is a litre of petrol, the story was all over the internet with people expressing all shades of opinions over a matter they are not involved in and do not have details of, beyond what was said by the blogger.
Some even went as far as saying the couple were too perfect to be real and it was only a matter of time before the pretense wore off and each showed their self for who they really were.
As if that was not good enough, it also presented some an opportunity to ridicule Christianity and Christians, as the celebrity couple are self-professed born again Christians.
We are in an age where everyone wants to be the first to break the news. This could be understood within the context of trying to outdo competitors who are unrelenting in being ahead of the other.
However, the damage this does is that a lot of unverified information finds its way into the social space, destroying relationships, casting aspersions on characters of innocent people and more.
It is sad that such news makes people giddy and throws them into a frenzy as they feast on those concerned. It does not matter if the news is verified or not.
In the past, some of those stories were later found to be untrue but the blogs did not report that they had goofed with their earlier information and so a lot of people remain with the earlier information which is false.
Howbeit, even if the allegations as reported by the blogs are true, how is it the business of outsiders? How and when did it become in the place of these blogs to call out people defaulting in their marriages?
Who made them the moral police of the society and the protector of marriages?
It is already enough that they make their money off people’s lives but must they destroy them in the process of doing this?
Agreed, these people are celebrities and live their lives publicly but they still reserve the right to their privacy and this should be respected.
Yes, they are celebrities but didn’t ask anyone to put them on a moral pedestal. Where then does your disappointment in them stem from when you are not even the one they promised fidelity.
People no longer celebrate love, fidelity and commitment, they are rather always doubtful of those who exhibit these attributes and always waiting for an opportunity to say they were certain things between the couple were not going to workout.
It is the height of sadism to rejoice at anyone’s misfortune, real or perceived, especially when you do not even know or have the details.
People should be allowed to live their lives and if they are being unfaithful as being alleged in the case of this couple, let them deal with it as best as they can.
It is not in any blog or anyone’s place to moralise over them.
